Positive Parenting: Parent-Child Relationship

When it comes to family life, everyone strives to figure out how the relationship between parents and children can become ideal. Positive parenting techniques work well for raising children with discipline and good moral values, and are every parents’ dream. However, it is not an easy feat. And it is important to know that the parent child relationship is a two-way street, in other words, it is actually a partnership between a parent and their child.

A garden with different flowers becomes beautiful when it blossoms. Similarly, if parents learn how to be a ‘gardener’ and are able to recognize their child’s personality and nourish it, then their ‘garden’ will become fragrant! This is what positive parenting is all about!

When parents develop effective parenting skills, they are able to take the initiative in filling the generation gap. When parents start to understand the balance of where to place boundaries, where to encourage, and where to discourage, then their children will not get spoiled. In this way they become good parents. When people do not know how to be a good parent, distance between the two develops.

“Every young adult has the potential power to help the entire world. He just needs the right guidance and support,” says Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan.

With proper understanding, youth can also strengthen their relationship with their parents.

With an aim to offer an in-depth, complete understanding of today’s youth, Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan has revealed how to raise a child and teenager with pure love and equanimity, so that they blossom in all fields of life. He has given positive parenting solutions for instilling moral values, good manners, and discipline, which work even during adolescence.

Read on to get a clear understanding of how to be a better parent using these effective parenting tips.

How to Become Better Parents?

How to become better parents and infill moral values in children? How to nurture your kids and let them flourish the way they are?

Spiritual Quotes

Your children are your mirror. They reflect your own faults.
No one in the world improves through physical or verbal abuse. They benefit from being shown the right way to act.
Children bring with them their personalities at birth, but you have to help and nurture them so that they flourish.
Keep positive intents (bhaavs) for your children. This will bring good results. They will change for the better and this will happen naturally.
The day you stop arguing and nagging your children, they will begin to improve. It is because your words do not come out right that they get aggravated. They do not embrace your words, but simply throw them back at you.
Parents attempt to mould their children into replicas of themselves. They should let them blossom on their own. They should know the children's strong points and nurture them instead.
Parents should speak in such a way, that children become interested in what they have to say. Only then would children listen to their parents.
The world will not improve through beating, scolding or contempt (irritated). It will improve when one improves himself and show the world how it can be done. As much as one speaks, it is all madness.
When you get irritated with children; that is considered as taking a new ‘loan’ (new karma is charged). You have not yet paid off the old one! To become irritated is an “extra item” outside of the “contract” (the past lives deeds between 2 people). This is how one continues to create new debts (new karma is charged).
The wife and children are dependent on you. How can you ever hurt those who are dependent on you? Even if the people dependent on you are at fault, you should not hurt them.
People will listen to you when you become the ‘Embodiment of Love’ [Prem Swaroop]. When can you become the ‘Embodiment of Love’? When you do not look for laws or rules; When you do not see anyone at fault.
When children see their parents killing insects, then they also kill [insects]. Whatever knowledge they see, they do accordingly. So they take a beating for it.
What is referred to as anger (krodh)? That which has a violent intent (himsak bhaav) and a lingering link (tanto) behind it. There is one exception to this. When parents become angry with their own children, there is no violent intent behind that, there is only a lingering link. That is why they bind merit karma.
If a man was to ask his wife and children, "Should I worry about you?" Then they will reply, "No, please don't worry about us." Even then, he will not be able to refrain from worrying about them, isn't it!
One is considered as a son if he were to remove all of his father's troubles.
In this world, it is not possible to forget about obligation of these three people: father, mother and guru; the one who has made us walk on the correct path.
No personality (prakruti) is a waste, but you have to discover what it is useful for. You do not have to keep saying, ‘You do not know how to make this sweet. You do not know how to do this and how to do that.’ But, instead discover what he knows.
Prakruti (relative self) does not improve or come under control through fear or intimidation. Fear or intimidation is what has given rise to the world. It actually spoils the prakruti even more.

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