Live a happy married life by resolving conflicts in marriage

Why do people get married? They do so because they are in search of life-long companionship, through which they can fill their life with love and happiness.

However, in order to live a happy married life, it is essential to accept your spouse the way they are. Everyone has different beliefs, thinking patterns, opinions, and viewpoints. So it is natural that no two people think alike. Hence, we can say that marriage is a merger of two separate sets of beliefs and mindsets. Due to these unlike mindsets, a couple tends to differ in terms of the way they deal with different matters in life. These differences create conflict in marriage, thus resulting in an unhappy marriage.

Despite these differences, is it possible to live a happy married life? How can you solve marriage problems and maintain marital harmony? Should you point out your spouse’s mistakes? Or is silence the solution?

Param Pujya Dadashri has answered these questions and revealed how to make a marriage work by giving practical marriage advice for resolving any kind of conflict in marriage. Using His tips of how to make a marriage work, He never had any marital discord with His wife.

He has shared the same successful marriage tips, and simple solutions, which help avoid marital discord and allow you to learn how to save your marriage and thus avoid divorce. He has unfolded the path of Akram Vignan through which a person can experience permanent bliss and happiness while living a married life.

To find detailed solutions on how to live a happy married life as well as obtain marriage tips, read ahead…

Do You Think Happy Married Life is Possible?

Is it possible to live a happy married life? Let’s hear what couples have to say about conflicts in married life and how they resolve conflicts with their spouse.

Spiritual Quotes on Happy Married Life

Where there are no opinions, there is no scope for conflict.
The words, 'husband' and 'wife' are filled with intense infatuation and attachment, but that attachment becomes weaker when you use the word 'companion'.
Human nature is such that wherever there is excessive love (love with attachment and expectations and conditional love), there exists an undercurrent of abhorrence and repulsion.
If you create misery for anyone, you will get the same dose back. An hour's worth of misery given to others will result in a lifetime of pain for you.
What should a husband be like? He should never let any difficulties befall upon his wife or his children. And what should the wife be like? Such, that she never causes problems for him.
Quarrels in the home affect the growing minds of children. Homes that are free of quarrels will have healthy children with emotional maturity. Otherwise a lot of problems will ensure for these children in the future.
Anyone, who indulges in forbidden sexual relationships, will have to endure tremendous physical and mental suffering.
If you remain sincere to your spouse, then the benefits you reap from doing so, will be equivalent to the benefits one received when practising the level of celibacy (no sex at all) required during the time of the Tirthankars (The Absolute and Fully Enlightened Lords).
A Gnani Purush shows you a way to escape the net of the world. He shows you the path to moksh (liberation) and puts you on that track so that you feel that you have been liberated from the problems of external forces forever.
Problem does not lie in being a husband; the problem is with acting as a husband (being bossy).
If the law of fidelity to one’s own wife is being practiced, then it [sexuality] is considered within limits. That will take one to a higher life-form. What is the ‘limit’ [criteria related to sexuality] of going to final liberation (moksha)? Fidelity to one’s own wife.
One who does not allow discord [with the wife] to happen even for a minute is considered a [true] husband. Look after this relationship in the same way that you would not allow the relationship with a friend to spoil. If you do not look after your relationship with your friend, then the friendship will break.
How can you afford to have difference of opinions at home? When the wife says, ‘I am yours’ and the husband says, ‘I am yours’, then how can there be difference of opinions?
When is one considered to have learnt to become a husband? It is when the wife continuously experiences veneration (respect) for him.
There is no problem if one does not know anything about the worldly life, but he should know how to ‘adjust’. Others do keep being ‘disadjust’ & we keep on being ‘adjust’, one will successfully go through worldly life.
When there is difference of opinion, there will be conflict. When there is difference of minds, there will be a divorce. When there is difference from the body, there will be death.
Nowadays most of the quarrels at home arise from suspicions. Suspicions create vibrations which create a blazing fire. And if one becomes suspicion free, the fire will extinguish on its own. How can the flames be put out if both parties are suspicious? There is no choice but for one of the two to become suspicion free.
Human beings of the current times are not capable of practicing brahmacharya (celibacy through the mind, speech, and body). What can a married person do? That is why ‘we’ are saying that the one who upholds fidelity to one’s own wife in this era of the time cycle, will attain final liberation (moksha); such is the guarantee that ‘we’ are giving! But come to ‘us’ and understand this point.
If you happen to get a bad husband or a bad wife even once, it can ruin many lifetimes!
From the time one gets married he tries to improve his wife, but neither of the two improves till death. Instead, if you would have tried to cut vegetables, it would have been done (with success.) So do not try to improve the wife. She may try to improve us [men] but we should not try to reform them.
Should we not have good conduct at home? Do we not make sure that we do not trample on the plant that belongs to our garden?
The wife and children are dependent on you. How can you ever hurt those who are dependent on you? Even if the people dependent on you are at fault, you should not hurt them.

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