Live A Happy Married Life : Resolve Conflicts In Marriage

1. Where there are no opinions, there is no scope for conflict.
2. The words, 'husband' and 'wife' are filled with intense infatuation and attachment, but that attachment becomes weaker when you use the word 'companion'.
3. Human nature is such that wherever there is excessive love(love with attachment and expectations and conditional love), there exists an undercurrent of abhorrence and repulsion.
4. If you create misery for anyone, you will get the same dose back. An hour's worth of misery given to others will result in a lifetime of pain for you.
5. With your wife, you have a partnership, not an ownership.
6. What should a husband be like? He should never let any difficulties befall upon his wife or his children. And what should the wife be like? Such, that she never causes problems for him.
7. Quarrels in the home affect the growing minds of children. Homes that are free of quarrels will have healthy children with emotional maturity. Otherwise a lot of problems will ensure for these children in the future.
8. Anyone, who indulges in forbidden sexual relationships, will have to endure tremendous physical and mental suffering.
9. If you remain sincere to your spouse, then the benefits you reap from doing so, will be equivalent to the benefits one received when practising the level of celibacy (no sex at all) required during the time of the Tirthankars (The Absolute and Fully Enlightened Lords).
10. A Gnani Purush shows you a way to escape the net of the world. He shows you the path to moksh (liberation) and puts you on that track so that you feel that you have been liberated from the problems of external forces forever.

1. Just as no man has ever been happy by making his wife miserable, no woman who has made her husband miserable has been happy either.
2. This world is full of vengeance. It is the law of nature that every living being will harbor some vengeance.
3. The words 'we' and 'ours' turn into 'mine' and 'yours', initiating quarrels and rivalry.

Questioner: How do you avoid daily quarrel between husband wife?

Dadashri: Why don't you make a decision not to quarrel for at least three days and see what happens. What is wrong with experimenting? Some people go on a fast for three days to improve their health, don't they? In the same way, try not to quarrel. Everyone at home should sit down together and decide, "I liked what Dada said, so from this moment on, we will not allow any quarrels to take place." Then just see what happens.

Dadashri: "In the year 1944, I was thirty-six years old.A Patel from Bhadran, (Dada's town), approached me one day in regards to his wife's brother had a daughter. When I asked him why he had come to me he said, "You have just had a mishap. First of all, Hiraba has lost her eye and on top of that you do not have any children." I told him, "I don't have any children but neither do I have any estate in terms of wealth. All I have is a small piece of land and a roof over my head" I had no estate for posterity. But why are you asking me all this? The day I married Hiraba, I had made a promise to her. So what if she has lost her eye, what can be done now? Even if she lost both her eyes, I would hold her hand and guide her."