The Real definition of Pure Love

1. Whenever there is a presence of the Lord or a Gnani Purush in this world, people witness real love. That love will not increase or decrease. It is love without attachment. It is the love of the Gnani. The Gnani's love is parmatma (absolute Self). Real love is parmatma; nothing else is parmatma.
2. Real love begins the moment one begins to understand one's Real Self (the Soul).
3. The nature of the Self is love and with such a love, one forgets all one's problems. Once bound through this love, nothing else can bind you.
4. Real love arises only when the ego and attachment are gone. Real love is something that is born out of absolute nonattachment (vitaragata).
5. Pure love, real love exists where there is no selfishness; where there are no feelings of 'yours-mine'. Wherever there is a feeling of' 'yours-mine', there is definitely selfishness as well as ignorance of the Self.
6. The love between a real guru and the disciple is such that the disciple absorbs everything the guru says.
7. Where there is real love, there is no limitation, or separation. It is boundless.
8. When you see faults in them, you cannot love them. So when you see the world as faultless, that is when pure love will arise.
9. Real love should not break under any circumstances. So it can only be called love if it never breaks. That is the test of love.
10. Human nature is such that wherever there is too much worldly love it turns into dislike and abhorrence.

1. What people call love in this world, is the language of illusion and deception. The warmth of real love is very different. Love is something very divine.
2. Attachment is relative and changing and love is real and unchanging. Love does not increase or decrease. If it increases or decreases, it is attachment. When relative love becomes excessive, it is called attachment, and one becomes trapped in it. When attachment decreases it turns into abhorrence. That which is attraction and repulsion is not love. What people call love, the Lord calls attraction.
3. Life of false attachment is useless. It is equivalent to being blind. It is like a blind man who wanders around like the moth and gets consumed in the process. Love on the other hand is constant and it gives lifelong happiness. It does not seek instant gratification.
4. Infatuation and attraction cannot be removed even if you want to. Just as you cannot remove the force of magnetism between a magnet and a pin, the infatuation and attraction in humans does not go. Its power and its force can be decreased, but it cannot be eliminated. Infatuation and attraction only go away when one becomes the Self, the one who is never attracted.
5. If one wants to acquire the supreme love, a love that this world has not seen, heard, believed or experienced before, then one should worship the living embodiment of love, the Gnani Purush.

1. The love test:
Just as we tap a rupee coin to test its authenticity, find an excuse to scold the other person and see their reaction. Nowadays selfishness is rampant. People will feign love for selfish motives. You should test it to see whether it is real love or not.
The one with such love (Real Love) will remain calm when scolded and take the utmost care not to hurt the offender. In the presence of such love even the wicked person would melt and surrender.

2. Become the embodiment of pure love:
If a person leaves after insulting you, and returns a few minutes later, if your love for him does not diminish, that is pure love (shuddha prem). One needs to learn to have this kind of love, nothing else. You should have the kind of love that I show you. Will you be able to manage this before this life comes to an end? So now learn to have such a love.

3. Feel love:
It is when you ask for forgiveness for all mistakes that have occurred so far. You accept that you, and only you are at fault for seeing fault in others. You should take this approach with those for whom you wish to become the embodiment of love. Only then will you feel love. Do you want to love or not?

Questioner: So the feelings that we have for you, is it the result of love in your heart?

Dadashri: Yes, it is the result of love. People become wise with this weapon of love. I do not have to scold them. I do not mean to scold anyone. The only weapon I have is this love. 'I mean to conquer this world with love'. I have laid down my arms. I have laid down my weapons of anger, pride, attachment and greed. The world wields these weapons of anger, pride, attachment and greed. I aim to conquer the world through love. The love that people know and understand is the mundane worldly love. Real love is that which will not depress me if you insult me, or elevate me if you praise me. In real love no changes occur. If any changes do occur, they will be of this body and not of the pure love. I, love incarnate, am separate from these thoughts, speech and acts.