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Analysis of Sexuality which helps to Stop Sex and Sexual Attraction

How do you stop sexual thoughts or impulses from arising?

Through analysis and study of what sexuality actually is. This includes completely devaluing the object of attraction (i.e. the person, thoughts, body parts, etc) to zero. You can do this by thinking about all the ways that the pleasure derived from sexuality is merely illusory, not real, and only temporary. When you are indulging in some form of sexuality, you tend to forget how filthy the human body actually is. For instance, you forget that every pore and opening in our body releases waste, which looks and smells awful. If faeces, sweat, and other discharge smell so bad, imagine how it would be inside the body. In addition, if there is real pleasure and happiness in physical contact and touch, then there should be pleasure even when your skin has an open wound or rash, but that is not the case. Furthermore, any form of dependency is the cause of suffering in this world, so how can dependency on someone else be the reason for happiness?

Analyze and know the real nature of sexual attraction

Here are some other ways in which you can analyze sexual attraction and see it as it is, in order to break the belief that there is happiness in sexuality:


  • Sex is a latrine; it is wasteful! Here, one gets engrossed and as a result, new causes are created! If an analysis of sexual act is done, it is like scratching an eczematous rash! The more you scratch, the better you feel, but how does it benefit you? You end up digging your own wound, blood starts oozing and the rash burns even more than before.
  • The body is just meat and bones covered with a sheet of silk. If you would only realize this much, then you will experience apathy towards sexual desires.
  • Not a single one of the five senses like the enjoyment of sexual pleasures. The eyes do not like to see it so it is done in dark. Its’ smell is not liked at all. Don’t even talk about its’ taste, it will make you vomit actually! One wouldn’t like to touch it and yet people believe there is happiness in it! No one likes it and yet what is the base on which does one go through sexual act is a surprise! People get involved in it because of popular opinion!
  • If you can visualize the entire life of the men or women you are attracted to, you will be free from the attachment and the attraction. If you visualize with understanding what he/she looked like in the womb, what he/she looked like when he/she was born, when he/she was a little baby, when he/she becomes very old, when paralysis occurs, when he/she is about to be cremated, you do not need to be taught renunciation.
  • Any kind of dependency is the cause of suffering, not happiness. Sex is completely dependent on someone else. So how can there be any happiness in it?
  • People in these times get tired and bored after running around for the whole day, they have tension about their job or business or domestic matters, suffer from much mental tension and so they jump into the mud of the sexual pleasure to divert from this burning sensation and at that time, they forget about it’s results (the outcome of sexuality)! After sexual pleasure, even a great warrior like person becomes feeble like a dead body!
  • If the person you are attracted to, had a burn on their body and pus was oozing out, would you still be attracted to it? So in reality there is no happiness in the body parts.

Man has the wrong belief that pleasure exists in sex. Now, if you experience greater happiness and pleasure in something other than sex, then you would not seek pleasure in sex. There is no happiness in sex but there is no other option for the humans in worldly interactions. Otherwise, who would knowingly open the lid of a gutter? If happiness were there in sexuality, the emperor kings would not have departed for the search of true happiness in spite of having so many queens!

It is due to our wrong belief. It is only our belief. There is nothing except for our belief. Destroy that belief and there would not be anything.

So one must think about how filthy and dangerous sexual involvement is in order to stop sex and sexual attraction.

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