1) When I was about twenty-five years old a relative had come to visit. I did not have this Gnan at the time and I did not know that speech is a record. This relative said some very unpleasant and hurtful things to me but I could not afford to quarrel with any relatives so I told him, "Have a seat please. I may have made a mistake." I served tea and snacks to him and calmed him down. As he was leaving, I said, "Please take the 'bag' (harsh words) back with you. I have not 'tasted' its contents. You had given it without weighing and measuring it properly. I do not accept anything that has not been measured. I only have use for goods that are correctly measured, so please take your bag back with you." He was pacified when he heard this.
2) Even at the age of seventy-three, Hiraba (Dada's wife) would ask me to come home early. In return I would tell her that I too, did not like being away from her. I played my role to the fullest and how happy it made her feel! She would declare her feelings to me and I too, would speak accordingly. Whatever you say should be beneficial to others. What good is it if you say things that are not beneficial to others.