Questioner: How can you ask for forgiveness from those who have died?
Dadashri: Even though they are dead, you can still do so because you have their photographs and you can remember their faces. Even if you do not remember their faces but you know their name, you can still use their name and do pratikraman and it will reach them.
Whichever person you had committed mistakes with, and if he is dead, then you should recall the mistakes and wash them away so it can get cleared and finished, and all entanglements can disentangle. You should clear those mistakes by doing alochana, pratikraman and pratyakhyan, because the living or the dead one will arise in the memory. You have to do pratikraman for whoever comes in your memory because we know that, truly speaking 'that' is alive only; 'that' is eternal. This is helpful to his soul too, and if you do pratikraman you can be free from entanglement that exists there.
It is like this cup-saucer worth one hundred rupees and our account with them exists as long as they remain unbroken. As long as the karmic account exists they will remain unbroken-alive. Once the account is over, they will break. The breakage is vyavasthit scientific circumstantial evidence, and you do not have to remember again. And these humans are cup and saucer only, no? It just seems that they died, but they never die- they just come right back here. That is why when you do pratikraman of a dead it reaches him. It will reach wherever he is.
Questioner: So how should pratikramans for the ones who have died, be done?
Dadashri: Invoke the pure Soul, which is completely separate from mind, body, speech and bhaav karma, dravya karma, no karma, name and all illusion associated with the name of the of the dead person, then recall and confess your mistakes alochana. Ask for forgiveness pratikraman for that mistake and resolve not to repeat that mistake ever again pratyakhyan. "You," the pure Soul, should remain the "knower" and the "seer" of *Chandubhai.
*Chandubhai = the relative self, and know how many pratikraman he does, how sincerely he does them and how many times he does them.
Book Name: Dadavani August 2007 (Page #20, Paragraph #3 to 8)