Whenever we have to endure suffering when there is no apparent mistake on our part, we feel hurt and we repeatedly question where we went wrong? Nevertheless we find no answers but then the intellect within us takes over. It will argue and plead in our own defense. 'I have not done anything wrong' and in the end it convinces us, 'if he had not behaved that way, I would not have acted and said the things I did'. In this way our intellect covers up own mistakes and places the blame on the other person. And thus starts the chain reaction of karma.
Gnani Purush Dadashri has given us a simple solution that is helpful in every manner. This solution in the form of the statement: "The fault is of the sufferer." Who is at fault? Is it the robber or the one who was robbed? Is it the fault of the robber or the one who was robbed? Who is suffering between the two? The fault is of the sufferer. The robber will suffer when he is caught and punished, but today the one who is suffering is at fault; he is being punished for his mistake. Today he is suffering for mistakes he made in his past life, so whom can he blame? From this perspective, the other person is naturally faultless.
If you break a china tea set, whom can you blame? But if your servant breaks the china, you blame him. This is the way things are. In situations at home, in the business, at work, everywhere, just look to see who is suffering; the one who suffers is the one who is at fault. The suffering exists as long as there is a fault. Once the faults are gone, no one in this world, no event in this world, will have the power to give any suffering to you.
1) There is no one in the world to bother the one who wants to see only his own faults, and no one else's.
2) The ultimate awareness is the one when nobody in the world is seen faulty.
Book Name: The fault is of the sufferer (Preface Paragraph #1 ,#2 & #3)