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What to do if someone is suicidal. Get suicidal help here.


When you have someone in your life that you are very close to and who is experiencing symptoms of depression or leaning towards tendencies of suicide, you feel helpless. You wonder what to say to someone who is suicidal. You go through varying degrees of helplessness, frustration, anger, fear, guilt, sadness, worries and stress. To make matters worse, you may feel that you are the cause of their current emotional imbalance. You start to panic and look for what to do if someone is suicidal and how you can give them suicidal help.

For you to meaningfully help your loved one, you need to demonstrate clarity of thought and not show any signs of emotional anxiety. The following are some rational and very helpful steps:

  • Start off by understanding the precise nature of the symptoms of depression and suicide, so you can get an idea of the depth of the problem.
  • Do not judge them, but be very compassionate. They are not in control of their emotions.
  • Understand that they cannot help what they are feeling and going through, and it is not personal.
  • Encourage them to get professional help.
  • Persuade them to open up and talk.
  • Do not show them your worries or concerns, as it will only make it worse for them.
  • Keep your emotions under control; do not overreact.
  • Win them over with love, kindness and understanding.
  • Do not misuse their trust.
  • A change of environment may help. Introduce a change of scenery. Take them to a park, spend time outdoors, go shopping, go for a picnic, etc...
  • Arrange a family gathering where everyone spends time together so that they are reminded that they do have people that love and care for them.
  • Exercise, do yoga and pranayama, or go for a walk with them.
  • Try to learn new things together or join a club where you can participate in different activities together.

For a deeper solution, try these:

  • Pray for them to find the strength to overcome their present difficulties.
  • Replace your worries, guilt, fear and any other emotions with prayer.
  • Encourage them to pray as well.
  • For ten minutes get them to recite the following sentence: I-a-m-f-u-l-l-o-f-i-n-f-i-n-i-t-e-b-l-i-s-s or I-a-m-f-u-l-l-o-f-i-n-f-i-n-i-t-e-e-n-e-r-g-y. If possible, try to get them to visualize each letter in their chit while reciting it. They will experience a lot of peace.
  • If possible, get them to visualize a picture of a God that they believe in, as this will soothe their mind.
  • If you feel responsible for their dilemma, then ask for forgiveness from them. You can do this internally. By doing this, you will begin to overcome your guilt. They will feel the effects as well.

During this period, be conscious that this process will take time and you will need to be patient. Progress will be slow, but ultimately you will get there! If you feel that you are losing control, then immediately seek professional suicidal help and DO NOT procrastinate. In short, do all you can for them personally, professionally or any other way. Have a positive mind and be strong for them and yourself.

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