Instead of nagging all the time, it is better to maintain your silence. Your attempts to improve your children by this persistent nagging, only makes them worse. It would be better not to say anything at all. If they become spoilt, the responsibility is yours. Do you understand this?

If we tell them not to do something, they will do it even more. They will be worse than before. We will end up losing them altogether. These parents have no clue about how to live their lives. They don't know the first thing about fatherhood and yet they become fathers. I have to explain to them using every possible means available, even through books. Those who have received this Gyan are able to raise their children well. Sit with him, and with affection ask him, "Son, do you not see these acts as a mistake?"

The general mentality is such that when one parent rebukes the child, the other parent will take the child's side. So if there were any hope of improving the child, it would be immediately crushed. This would lead the child to develop fondness for his mother and antagonism towards his father. When the child grows up, he will retaliate against his father.

To guide your older children, you must follow my agnas (principles/instructions). Unless the children ask for your advice, do not say anything to them. You should tell them that it would be better if they did not ask you. If you start thinking negatively about them, you must immediately do pratikraman (apology coupled with remorse for any wrongdoing)

In this age, the power to improve others is lost; so don't expect to improve anyone. Give up any hope of improving others. Unless there is unity within the mind, the speech, and the body your efforts will be futile. This means that whatever is in your mind, you should say and you should act accordingly. Only then the other person will change. In this era is far from the case. Bring normality into your interaction with every member of your household

People do deep harm to themselves and others in their efforts to improve others. First you must improve yourself, only then can you improve others.

We should constantly persevere within us, the bhaav (intention) for the betterment of our child's intellect. We will notice the effects after some time. They will gradually understand. You just have to keep praying for them. If you keep pulling and nagging at them, they will go against you. One must make a compromise and allow things to run the way they are.

If you come complaining to me that your child drinks alcohol, I will tell you to put up with it because the fault is your own and not to let your bhaav deteriorate. The law of nature and the law of the world are two different things. People will always tell you that the child is at fault and you will also believe the same. Nature's law says, " The fault is yours!"

If you make friends with your children they will improve. But if you assert your parenthood you are taking a great risk. Your friendship should be such that the child will not go looking for comfort and guidance elsewhere. You should do everything a friend would do, with your child; play games, sports, drink tea together etc. Only then will they stay yours, otherwise you will end up losing them. Have children ever died for their parents? These children are not really yours. You think this because of your illusionary belief. From the very beginning you should decide that you want to be friends with them. Only then you will be able to live with them like that. If your friend is doing something wrong, how much will you tell him? Just enough to help him, but do not nag him. You do not want to hurt your friend's feelings. To be a friend you must first accept that in vyavahar (relative world) you are the father. From within, however, you should think of your roles as being reversed, where you become the son and your son becomes the father. Any other way, it would not be possible to be a friend. When can a father be a friend? When he comes down to the level of his child, he will be accepted as a friend. Then his work is done.