Kindness is Egoistic Quality
Questioner: Is there egoism in pity (daya)?
Dadashri: Pity is an egoistic quality! All dualistic (dwandva) qualities are egotistic. All traits that are dualistic, are egoistic, even dwaita (dualism) is an egotistic quality, and adwaita (non-dualism) is also an egotistic quality. These people are all opening up 'shops' of adwaita and nothing comes out of it. That is because it is a dualistic quality: dualism and non-dualism. Therefore, if a person has kindness, he will also have predisposition to cruelty.
Questioner: Kindness (daya) and compassion (karuna); there's no place at all for kindness in that. The love is that of Lord Mahavir and the kindness is that of Lord Buddha.
Dadashri: I am in that state; I am the embodiment of love (prem swaroop). I do not have any differences of opinion with anyone. Even if someone swears at me, I would have no difference of opinion.
Questioner: What would you call such intent? Would you call that compassion (karuna) or would you call it pity (daya)?
Dadashri: The stage of kindness has come to an end. Where there is kindness; there is also cruelty. They do not have that cruelty in them, the cruelty has left. Kindness has gone and compassion has arisen.
Questioner: Does egoism also play a part in compassion?
Dadashri: No, not egoism.
Questioner: Why is there a difference between love (prem) and compassion (karuna)?
Dadashri: Love (Prem) is a form that comes latter.
1) Dharma begins from the moment you begin to give happiness (sukh) to others. Compassion begins when one is not worried about his own happiness but is constantly preoccupied with helping others in difficulty.
2) Love and compassion are different. Compassion means a generalized awareness of suffering of the entire humanity. This is a type of grace. Love is different. Love is the vitamin for the Self. People have taken a lot of vitamins for the body, but they have never taken the vitamin for the Self. When one sees pure love, the vitamin, the inner energy of the Self expresses.
3) Whenever there is a presence of the Lord or a Gnani Purush in this world, people witness real love. That love will not increase or decrease. It is love without attachment. It is the love of the Gnani. The Gnani's love isparmatma (absolute Self). Real love is parmatma; nothing else is parmatma.
4) Pure love, real love exists where there is no selfishness; where there are no feelings of 'yours-mine'. Wherever there is a feeling of' 'yours-mine', there is definitely selfishness as well as ignorance of the Self.
Book Name: Aptavani 10 (U) (Page #465 - Paragraph #5 to #7, Page #466 - Paragraph #1 to #8)