In this world, any person that harms you in any way is simply an 'instrument'. You are responsible because you suffer the damage. In reality, this world is truly independent and no one can interfere with another. And if this were not so, there would be no end to people's fear and no one would achieve liberation. Even Lord Mahavir would not have attained liberation. Lord Mahavir was completely impervious to any feelings projected towards him by others. People's feelings towards him ranged from reverence to contempt; from love to sexual desire; from respect to insult. Nothing affected him. There was no element of retaliation in him to anything. The one who is free from retaliation attains final liberation. The one who retaliates has to stay behind to suffer the consequences.
The world will go on binding you with all sorts of negative and positive feelings. If a pickpocket sees you putting money in your pocket at a train station, would he not make the intent to steal it? And suppose you were to suddenly board the train as it was pulling away, leaving the pickpocket behind, even though he missed the opportunity to steal your money, he still formulated the intent to steal and this will bind him for new karma effects.
Everyone in the world is going to have such positive or negative inner intent but if there is no retaliation from you then you will be left alone. If you do not put your own intent in others' intent, no one in the world can bind you; otherwise there would be no end to it.
1) All this (worldly life) is relative and for it to have effect on You (real Self), is grave weakness. You should not be affected by whatever happens around you.
2) 'Vitrag' means that even if someone hurts him, swears at him, abducts his daughter, even then he remains unaffected. Vitrag is beyond dualities like, happiness-misery, good-bad etc.
You should be grateful from within whenever your faults manifest; only then will these faults cease to exist. If you feel hatred towards a policeman you should be grateful to him and the fault will cease. Consider the person that you find disagreeable your benefactor and you will no longer find him disagreeable. Each and every word I utter is like a medicine. All these are remedies; how else is anyone to understand the statement that you must be indebted to the person that calls you a thief! Take this as a command from Dada as it is of utmost benefit for you.
Questioner: If Dada himself is grateful to the other person, then what is wrong with us doing the same?
Dadashri: Yes, this is how you should look at it: Tell yourself that he is just calling you a thief and not devious or evil. It is good of him not to say anything else; after all it is his mouth and he can say whatever he wants. Do you have the right to stop him? You just have to feel grateful to him. By doing this you will not spoil your mind, and you will keep your peace. Do you understand? This is a principle! How is it so? If someone called me a thief, I would be grateful to him. Why so Dada? No one would say such a thing (call you 'A Thief') in the first place. All this is nothing but a result of your own projection, a result of whatever you yourself had uttered in your previous life. I give you absolute written assurance that this entire world is in the form of results of projections. That is why I am grateful and you should also feel the same. If you felt the same way, your mind will not be disturbed.
1) To understand science behind freedom from Karma, read Science of Karma.
2) Self Realization is the beginning of attaining ultimate liberation. See the schedule of Self Realization Ceremony (Gnan Vidhi).