Dadashri: Whose mistake is it? It is the sufferer's. What is the mistake? The mistake is his belief of 'I am Chandulal (replace your name here) .' That is the mistake. In reality, no one in this world is at fault, so no one can be blamed. This is a fact.
No one in this world is capable of doing anything. Whatever accounts one has already created will bind him. Whatever entangled accounts you have created will not release you until they bring you their entangled results. But from now on, do not create any new complicated accounts. You should stop now that you are aware of this. You will have to settle the old accounts that you have created, but make sure you do not create any new ones. You are solely responsible for yourself. It is not God's responsibility. God does not interfere in this, so even God is not able to grant forgiveness. Many devotees believe that even if they commit a sin, God will forgive them. There is no forgiveness from God. Forgiveness comes from people who are kind. If you were to confess to a kind person that you have made a very big mistake against him, he will forgive you immediately.
The person who inflicts suffering on you is merely a nimit and the main fault is your own. The person who hurts you or the person who brings you joy are both nimits. Everything happens because of past accounts.
I am telling you very frankly that no one has the power to interfere in your life. But if you are at fault, then anyone will be able to interfere. They may even hit you. I know the causes behind your suffering. These causes are yours only. No one hurts you, you hurt yourself. You are solely responsible for your worldly life.
Chandulal* = Whenever Dadashri uses the name 'Chandulal' or the name of the person Dadashri is addressing, the reader should insert his or her name for exact understanding.
1) Whose fault is it? The one who is suffering. Which fault? The belief that 'I am Chandulal', verily is your mistake. It is the belief that causes all the suffering . When this belief goes away, then no one is guilty in this world.
2) People have seen the 'theory of doership', but they have not seen the 'theory of karma'. 'This man insulted me', is a 'theory of doership'; and 'he is cursing me as a result of unfolding of my karma', is 'theory of karma'. If one understands the 'theory of karma', he will not see anyone's fault.
1) If a person suffers, it is because of his own mistakes. If a person enjoys happiness, it is the reward of his good deeds. But the law of the world is such that it accuses the nimit (the apparent 'doer' - person who inflicts the suffering). God's law, the Real Law, catches the real culprit. This law is exact and no one can ever change it. There is no law in this world that can inflict suffering upon anyone, not even the law of the government.
2) If someone blames you for something, surely you must be at fault somewhere ? Why not destroy that mistake ? In reality, no person in this world can cause hurt to another. This is how independent every living being is. If there is any suffering, it is because of one's own past mistakes. Once these mistakes are destroyed nothing is left pending.
3) The fault is of the sufferer is the law that will liberate you. If someone were to ask me how he could recognize his mistakes, I would tell him to make a note of all the circumstances where he experiences suffering. Those are his mistakes. He has to find the mistakes that lie behind his suffering. People suffer all the time; they must find their mistakes.
4) Your inner enemies : krodh (anger), maan (pride), lobh (greed) and maaya (attachment), makes you see faults in others. The vision of the Self (atma), does not see any faults in others. It is these inner enemies that makes one see faults in others. The one who has no inner enemies, has no one to show him fault in others and in fact he sees no fault in others. In reality, no one is at fault. These inner enemies are your weaknesses that possess you because of your wrong belief of, 'I am Chandulal (replace your name here)'. If this wrong belief leaves you, these weaknesses would disappear. However, it will take them some time to vacate the 'house' they have occupied for so long.
Book Name: The fault of the sufferer (Page#21 Paragraph #2,#3 & #4 ; Page#22 Paragraph #1)