What actually is the meaning of worrying? What is worry? Let’s find out the same by considering some thoughts. We come across various situations in our daily life and we think to ourselves,
What do we do when faced with these situations? We get overwhelmed and are unable to handle the situation at hand. When this happens, when a thought goes beyond a certain level, it is a worry. This is the exact meaning of worrying. Thinking has to be done up to a certain level and should not exceed its limits. It is normal as long as it does not distress you. Once it gets beyond that and puzzles you or troubles you, it is a worry. This is a simple worry definition.
This is how your mind goes from a simple thought to worrying, overthinking and anxiety:
Worries blind and fracture all right understanding and knowledge. One can be careful, but not worry. There is a lot of difference between carefulness and worrying. Carefulness is awareness and to worry is to have anxieties, which eat you up from within.
So, in simple terms, what worrying means? Worrying is to keep contemplating about, ‘What will I do now?’, ‘What is going to happen now?’ and so on. Worrying creates obstruction to the work and delays all the work.
Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan says, “When you start worrying, you should know that the work at hand will be ruined, and if you do not have worries, then be assured that it is going to turn out good. Worry is an obstruction to any work.”
In reality, this world is such that there is no need for a person to have any doubts or worries about anything. Nature fulfills everyone's needs whenever it arises. One gets water for his bath, a mattress to sleep and so many other necessities even without worrying or thinking about them. So, by the same token, all the other needs will also be taken care if one remains natural and spontaneous.
What is the difference between tension and worries?
Another way to understand the meaning of worrying is to think about a situation or a problem as being everything. If the wife is sick, and she is everything in his life, more important than all his wealth, then worry takes hold. She means more to him than everything else. So, worry sets in. If on the other hand, money was everything for him and his wife became sick, he would experience tension but not worries.
Tension is similar but not quite the same as worry. The pull in tension is many sided whereas in worry you are totally involved in one issue thinking that to be everything. For example, ‘What will happen if this job does not work out? Here my wife is sick, what will happen to her? The children are not going to school properly, what will happen to them?’ Tension is all these kinds of pulls at the same time.
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