Questioner: When we get angry, we start using abusive language. How can we improve ourselves?
Dadashri: This happens because one does not have any control. In order to have some control one should first understand how he feels when someone gets angry with him. How does he tolerate such behavior when it is directed towards him? Treat others the way you would like to be treated. If someone uses abusive language towards you and it does not bother you or depress you, it is a different matter. You should stop it altogether. One must never use abusive language. Swearing is crude behavior, unbecoming of any human being.
You can ask for strength from the Lord within you to help you avoid the use of abusive lanuguage by saying a special prayer called Nav Kalmo (Nine deep inner intents) Click Here
Book Name: Anger (Page #20 Last 2 Paragraphs & Page #21 Paragraphs #3)
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