Some people ask how they can get rid of their anger. When they tell me that they try to suppress it, I ask them whether they are trying to suppress it before or after they understand it. I tell them that they must understand anger first, because anger and peace coexist. If one fails to understand anger and tries to suppress it, he may be suppressing peace instead, so peace will die. Therefore, anger is not something that one can suppress. One has to understand that anger is ego. Analyze the ego that causes the anger.
If this child breaks something valuable and we get angry, what kind of ego is it? It is the kind of ego that tells us that we have incurred a loss from the breakage. Here the ego is of profit and loss. We have to think about how we will go about destroying this kind of ego. Otherwise by harboring the ego, the anger will continue. Anger and greed at their very core, are really only ego.
1) People use anger as a form of protection. In ignorance (ignorance of one's real Self), one's protection is through anger.
2) People say they want to stop their anger. One cannot stop it immediately. Firstly, he must recognize what anger is and the causes behind it. How is it born and who are its parents? All this has to be determined even before anger is understood.
3) If I get angry with this gentleman, I decide that my anger towards him is the result of me seeing faults in him previously. Now whatever wrong he does, as long as I do not let it affect my mind, the anger towards him will subside. Some of it will still come as a result of the past, but no more will come in the future.
Anger Problem: I have hurt my family member or an office sub-ordinate by using abusive language. I am tired of being angry.
Apply Dada's Try it Yourself: When someone is hurt by your anger, you should be remorseful, ask for forgiveness from his/her Soul, and vow never to get angry again. It is necessary for you to do this whole heartedly atleast a few times. This prayer is called ''Pratikraman'' by Dadashri.
Result: When your positive intent through the prayer reaches the person, he will not harbour a grudge, hold venegance against you and you will not face the bad consequences in the next life. You will be able to think clearly forward as you will stop seeing him as being the one at fault.
Book Name: Anger (Page #14 Paragraphs #1, #3)