Words hurt children … so how to deal with children?

Dadashri: In the current times, there is nothing better than speaking as little as possible. Today the words that come out hurt people like rocks. This goes for everyone, therefore it is better to say as little as possible. It is not worth saying or telling anyone, anything. On the contrary, you make things worse by your words. If you tell someone not to be late for the train, he will end up being late and if you do not say a word, he will be on time. Everything works fine if you remain silent. Your words are nothing but ego. Children will start to improve from the day you stop nagging them. The words you utter are not helpful and that is why they become agitated. Children do not accept your words and that is why your words bounce back. You should carry out your duties of providing food and shelter for your children and fulfill all your obligations; nothing else is worth doing or saying. Do you understand that you will not gain anything by telling them anything? The children are grown up now. Are they likely to fall down the stairs now? Why are you neglecting your own spiritual welfare? Your duty towards children is a relative duty. It is not worth interfering in it. Instead of bickering, it is better if you just remain silent. You ruin your mind and the minds of others by bickering.

Related Quotes:

1) The wife and children have come under our shelter. How can we hurt those who have come under our shelter (and support)? We cannot hurt those who are dependent upon us even if they are at fault.

2) If we create an environment where someone is hurt, then it will create Conflict (affliction) within us.

Try It Yourself:

1) You should explain to your young children that every morning after their bath, they should worship the Sun Lord, and ask and pray for right intellect for themselves and the world and for the salvation of the world. If they do this much, they will be instilled with right values. This way the parents become free from their karmic bondage with them.

2) Every morning you should pray sincerely and repeat five times, "I do not want to hurt any living being in the slightest extent, with this mind, speech, or body," Despite doing this, if you happen to hurt anyone, then you should sincerely repent and take a vow that you will not hurt anyone again. By doing this, you will wash away your bad deeds and your life will become peaceful.

Reference:
Book Name : Life without conflict (Page #34 Paragraph #7 & Page #35 Paragraph #1)

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