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The other person comes to pick a fight, what should I do?

Questioner : What should we do if we do not want to get into a conflict but the other person comes to pick a fight? Say one is very careful and aware, and the other is bent on fighting, is conflict not inevitable?

Dadashri: How long can a person fight with a wall? If you were to run into a wall, what should you do to it? Should you fight with it? Similarly, those with whom you come into conflict are walls. What should you do in that situation? Recognize and accept they are walls. Then there will be no problems.

Questioner :  If we remain silent, the other person may mistake our silence as admission of our guilt and in turn fight even harder.

Dadashri : This is your belief only. If a man gets up to go to the bathroom in the night and bumps into the wall, does that mean that the wall bumped into him because he remained silent?

Whether you say something or not has no bearing on anything. It is not true that your silence has any effect on the other person and neither is it true that your speech has any effect. Everything is simply interplay of scientific circumstantial evidences. No one has even the slightest authority or power in this world, so who is going to get away with anything? If this wall had the power to do anything, then so would the body. Do we have the authority or the power to fight with this wall? In the same way, what is the point of getting angry and fighting with people? The other person definitely does not have the independent control or power, so why don't you also become like the wall? When you scold your wife, the God within her makes a note of what you are doing. If she starts to scold you, you should become like the wall, and the God within you will help you.

Related Quotes:

1) Where slightest of conflict exists, there is neither God nor Religion.

2) If we create an environment where someone is hurt, then it will create Conflict (affliction) within us.

3) When you walk around with a long face in the house; that is called conflict.

Reference:
Book Name : life without conflict (Page #68 Paragraph #2, #3, #4, #5 & #6 ; Page #69 Paragraph #1)
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