If someone says something negative to you just once, you may ask yourself why he is doing so, and in your mind you would even curse him a few times. In so doing, you are creating a new account with him while settling an old one. When he came to return what you yourself previously gave to him, instead of accepting and depositing it, you cursed him several times. You are not able to tolerate even a single insult from him and yet you insult him several times over. Now how is the human intellect to reach such depths? Instead people gradually bind themselves deeper and deeper and increase the confusion.
Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan has given numerous keys on how to respond to insults, let us have a look at them:
When someone insults you and your mind does not spoil for that person, then you have done penance. When such penance happens, energy of the Self manifests.
Inviting a Slap with Compensation
Consider yourself very fortunate if someone insults you or speaks ill of you. A few years ago I used to announce that anyone in need of money could come and give me a slap and I in return would pay him five hundred rupees. Everyone refused and said they could not do it. Where can you find someone willing to slap or insult you even if you were willing to pay them for it? So people who are insulted frequently in their homes without having to pay for them, should consider themselves fortunate. As for myself, although I was willing to pay five hundred rupees, I was not as fortunate.
Before attaining spontaneous Self Realization, I used to insult and belittle myself because no one else would do it for me! Even though I was willing to pay to be insulted, no one would oblige me and that is why I had to do it myself. I used to tell myself, ‘you have no sense whatsoever! You are stupid! You are an imbecile!’ I would ask myself: ‘what kind of a person are you? Is the path to liberation so difficult to warrant such behaviour from you?’ I would insult myself in this way. What else could I do when no one would oblige me? You on the other hand don’t even have to search for insults or pay for them, because you receive them anyway. Hence, shouldn’t you take advantage of this situation?
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