Questioner: Some people just do not understand, even though our behavior towards them is very friendly.
Dadashri: It is our own mistake that they do not understand. Why did you come across this particular person and not someone with understanding? Whenever you experience any suffering, it is a result of your own mistakes.
Questioner : Are we to understand that such is our karma ?
Dadashri : Absolutely.There is no one in this world that can inflict the slightest bit of suffering upon you, and if someone does, he is merely a nimit (instrument) in it.
A couple gets into a fight and they go to bed not talking to each other. The wife will sleep peacefully, whereas the husband will be restless, tossing and turning in the bed. From this, we should understand that he is at fault. The wife is not suffering. If the wife is tossing and turning and the husband is snoring, the wife is at fault. Whoever is at fault, will suffer. This is a very profound science. The world always blames the nimit.
1) As long as someone gets hurt in the slightest, on your account; its effect will fall upon you. So beware. If the other person keeps 'disadjusting' and you keep 'adjusting', then you will cross this worldly life. 'Fault is of the sufferer'; if one is able to understand only this much, then not a single clash will remain in the home.
2) There are worldly judges everywhere in this world, but there is only one judge of karma (deeds), the 'fault is of the sufferer'! This is the only justice, on which the whole world is running, and the worldly life continues to stand on the illusory justice.
Book Name: The fault of the sufferer (Page #6 Paragraph #6, #7 & #8 ; Page#7 Paragraph #1 & #2)