Questioner: What is the difference between love of illusion and real love?
Dadashri: The moth hovers around the flame and sacrifices its life in it. That is called love of illusion, whereas real love will last. There is no illusion in real love.
Life of false attachment is useless. It is equivalent to being blind. It is like a blind man who wanders around like the moth and gets consumed in the process. Love on the other hand is constant and it gives lifelong happiness. It does not seek instant gratification.
Therefore, all these are false attachments of illusionary love. Everything is an illusion. Love of illusion is simply open strokes of deceit.
Questioner: But how can an ordinary individual know the difference between real love and false love? How does the other person know whether one's love is real or false?
Dadashri: You will find out when you test it. It is best to test it before committing yourself. Just as we tap a rupee coin to test its authenticity, find an excuse to scold the other person and see their reaction. Nowadays selfishness is rampant. People will feign love for selfish motives. You should test it to see whether it is real love or not.
Questioner: Even when you scold…what is that real love like?
Dadashri: The one with such love will remain calm when scolded and take the utmost care not to hurt the offender. In the presence of such love even the wicked person would melt and surrender.
1) That which increases one moment and decreases the next, is not love: That which resides in the heart and remains the same, is real love.
2) In worldly interactions, only love can win over children, workers and everyone else. Any other means will ultimately prove to be futile.
3) In love there should be no sulking or moodiness. That is the kind of love you will find from me. One's love should never fluctuate. If your husband is upset with you, your love for him should not change. If a woman is given diamonds, her love increases. All this is infatuation and attraction. The world is run by infatuation and attraction. The only ones who have the license to love are the Gnanis and the fully enlightened Lords. Their love makes people blissful. This love creates a permanent bond between them. Their love is beyond this world. There is no hint of worldly love in it.
4) People sever their friendships over external problems. When the friendship begins, they display love externally and also feel the same love internally. But when problems arise, their conflicts too will be external and internal. There should be no conflict internally. Although the other person will not be aware of it, one should still have love for him internally. As long as there is internal harmony, one's humanity will not be lost. One loses humanity when one loses internal harmony.
Book Name: Pure Love (Page #10, Paragraph #4, Page #11)