What circumstance should I get a divorce?

Questioner : But nowadays they take place, so under which circumstances should one get a divorce?

Dadashri : If there is no possibility of harmony, then it is better to separate. If it is impossible to adjust, then it is better to separate. Otherwise, I say one thing only, "Adjust everywhere." Don't try to multiply things between the two of you by saying, "He's like this," and "She's like that."

Questioner : Are the divorces that take place in the west, when couples do not get along, considered bad?

Dadashri : What is the meaning of a divorce anyway? Are these people cups and saucers? When you cannot separate even a cup and saucer, how can you separate a man and a woman? It may be acceptable for the Americans, but you are an Indian. Once there used to be a vow of one wife, one husband. The kind of thinking, which prevailed, was that other than his own wife, a man would not even look at another woman. Where then do thoughts of divorce have any dignity in such a place? Do you like divorces?

In the animal kingdom, amongst the dogs, there are divorces and now amongst the humans as well. So how are humans and animals different? Man lives like a beast. In our Hindustan, there would not be another marriage after the first one. If the wife dies, the husband never remarries. What spiritual purity was possessed by the men born back then!

If a couple is on the verge of getting divorced, I will reunite them in one hour if you bring them to me. I will mend them in one hour, so they remain together again. All these problems are merely fears due to a lack of understanding.Many couples that were separated have now been happily reunited.

These are our moral values. Couples go on quarrelling and yet they stay together for eighty years. Even during the funeral rites on the thirteenth day, the widow would prepare everything that her late husband liked. She would even order food all the way from Bombay for the ceremony. A young boy would say to the old widow, "Maji, (title used to address elderly ladies), six months ago he pushed you and at that time you were calling him all kinds of names!" She would reply, "Even then, I would not find another husband like him." That is what the old widow would say. From the experiences of her entire life, she will discover that at heart, he was a nice man. His traits were awkward, but at heart he was good.

Our lives should be lived in such a way that people would take note of us. We are Indians, not Americans. We are such that, we abide by and endure the woman in our life, and the women are such, that women do the same. In this manner,eighty years together will pass. Foreigners do not tolerate even for an hour, neither he nor she would endure even for an hour.

Related Spiritual Quotes by Param Pujya Dadashri: 1) The wrong understanding is unhappiness and the right understanding is happiness. One has to see which kind of understanding he is getting. The entanglement of wrong understanding will bring unhappiness and if that entanglement is cleared, there will be nothing but happiness. There is no other kind of happiness or unhappiness in this world at all!
2) If you follow the understanding of a person who is free (from worldly bondages), you will become free. If you follow the understanding of the one who is bound, you too will be bound.

Glossary: Prakruti -Mind-speech-body complex; The relative self; The innate nature of one's relative self that is, the non-Self complex; Inherent characteristic traits. 
Hindustan : India

Did you know :There is a special prayer called Pratikraman to ask for forgiveness with whom you had discord that lead to conflicts.

Reference: Book Name: "Harmony in marriage" (Page #93 and paragraph #5 onwards and Entire Page #94).