What are the consequences of a lovers’ suicide pact? Is suicide for love justified?

Tragically, lovers make suicide pacts and commit suicide to escape from social, political or cultural differences that prevent them from being together. Because there is no hope of spending their lives together, they become desperate and end up taking their lives. There are others, who after the death of their partners, commit suicide out of fear of having to spend the rest of their lives alone.

However, the consequences of committing suicide are very grave. People believe it to be an escape from their suffering, but it will only result in greater suffering to come.

What happens when lovers commit suicide at the same time?

When two people make a lovers suicide pact, they do so with the hope of being reunited in their next life. This is not possible because all future births are determined by one’s own individual karma. They are bound in this life and the effects are experienced in the next life. Nothing can alter this science.

Therefore, it does not matter how strong of a desire you have to be united in your next life. It is your individual karma that will determine your next birth.

How is karma bound?

Human beings bind karma by not knowing the answer to the questions ‘Who am I?’ and ‘Who is the doer?’ Doership in any action binds karma. To believe that ‘I am the doer’ is called binding karma. 

Every one of us binds karma during the unfolding of circumstances. During this time, we each have our own opinions and react differently, which determine the type of karma we bind. Because we all have different opinions and viewpoints, it is impossible for us to be born in the same location, at the same time, so that we meet each other again in the next life. Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan, who was an enlightened being, has exposed this science of karma. He spent infinite past lives seeking spiritual knowledge and the answers to questions like, ‘What is Karma?’, ‘What is bondage?’ and ‘What is liberation?’ for example.

Therefore, it is better to live your life in peace and harmony. Make a decision to handle all problems with composure, no matter how painful or excessive the suffering is. Make a firm resolve to look for a solution and overcome your misery. Suicide should never be an option, because you will suffer the consequences in your next life.

What other solution is there, besides committing suicide for love?

Think about it… If you commit suicide, then you are giving up on any chance of being together. It is like running away from a fight, even before it has started. Instead, try these other solutions:

• Be open and honest with your parents. Do not hide anything from them.
• What qualities does your partner have? How do they make you happy? Explain these things to your parents.
• Listen to your parent's point of view as well.
• Be patient and remain calm.
• Be level-headed. Do not make hasty decisions.
• Maintain open communication with all parties.
• Try your best to convince your parents. After all, parents want to see that their children are happy. Do not go against their wishes. If you make your parents unhappy, then how can you ever be happy in life?
• Do not allow conflicts to create division between you, your partner and your parents.
• If you really love each other, but you cannot be together, then you should pray for the other person’s well-being. That they remain happy wherever they are. That is the sign of true love.