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How to deal with angry wife?

Now if you both were to have an argument one night, she would have a tanto (prolonged inner anger and turmoil). The next morning, when serving you your tea, she would deliberately slam the cup down on the table. This would tell you that she has not quite recovered from the fight the night before. That verily is the link between the argument the night before and her current state of continued sulking.

Why does she continue sulking? It is because she wants you under her thumb (wrapped around her finger). If you get angry, she will know that you have become weak, but if you don't get angry, then she will try harder.

 If, despite her continued arguing, the husband does not get angry, then she will go into the kitchen and throw a few utensils around to make noise… Bang…bang!! When he hears the noise he will get upset, but if he does not, then at this point, she will pinch their little toddler and make him cry. Then he will get angry! "You are after our son now? Why are you bringing our son in the middle of this?" Then she will be satisfied, "Ah ha! Now he is defeated!"

Men forget events, whereas women will hold on to them their entire lives. Men are naive, open-minded, and forgiving.They will forget. Women on the other hand will keep reminding you of what you said the day of the fight. Heavens! Even after twenty years, her memory is so fresh. Your son is now twenty years old,old enough to get married, yet she continues to hang on to that incident. Everything except for her memory will rot! When you hurt a woman, she will keep it in a special place in her heart, so never hurt her. You must be very cautious in this matter.

Whenever you hurt a woman through your words, you are inviting a liability for your future. She will tolerate you for the time being because you are stronger than her, but later when you are weak and all your joints are creaking, she will take her revenge, so watch out. I have witnessed this many times over. That is why I advise men not to fight. "You fools! Don't fight with your wives. Do not bind any vengeance with your wives. Otherwise you will create grave difficulties."

By their true nature, our women are like goddesses. The worldly interactions defile their true nature and they become dangerous. She has the to go into an explosive rage if instigated or hurt excessively. Hence, the saying, "It is easy to play with and please a woman, but when she gets angry, she is a terror." When she gets angry she is like a lioness. We men should not take things that far, we should know our limits. If you keep harassing the poor woman, where will she go? That is why she gets angry. Her response of anger varies in intensity, from mild to extreme.

When a woman is in an explosive rage, your intellect will not help you. Your intellect will not be able to control her, so speak to her in a manner that will not aggravate her. Keep real love in your eyes. If at any time she says the wrong things, remember that she is a woman and let it go. Have complete love in one eye and in the other, maintain a little sternness. You should live in this manner. Use the appropriate approach. You cannot be totally strict all day long. In one eye you maintain strictness and with the other eye view her as a goddess. Do you understand?

Related Spiritual Quotes by Param Pujya Dadashri: 1) Not allowing discord even for a minute, that is true husband. Just as the relation with a friend we do not let ruined, one should be equally careful with the wife. Our friendship with a friend will end if we do not protect it.
2)
When is one considered to have learnt to become a husband? It is when the wife continuously experiences veneration (respect) for him.

Did you know :There is a book named "Anger "- Read on to understand how to deal with it.

Reference: Book Name : "Harmony in marriage" (Page #70 and Paragraph #3).

 
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