"ADJUSTMENT THROUGH PRAYER"
Questioner : If I do my best to make the other person understand, then is it up to the other person to make the effort to understand?
Dadashri : Your responsibility is to explain things to him. If he still does not understand, there is no solution. Then, all you need to say is : "Dada Bhagwan! (Address the Lord within that person) Give him the light to understand." You have to say at least this much. You cannot leave him in a limbo. This is critical. This is Dada's science of adjustment. It is invaluable. Surely you must be experiencing the results of your inability to adjust? To not adjust is foolishness. Whenever one feels that he cannot relinquish his authority as a husband, he sets himself up for his own downfall. His life will be miserable. Let things run the way they are."
"REMEDY FOR SAYING SOMETHING WRONG"
Adjustment in daily life interactions is Gnan. If your attempt to adjust fails, then try again. For example if you said something hurtful to a friend - really your speech is not under your control, but later on you become aware of your mistake. Now often you fail to go back and set things straight. When you realize your mistake, you should go to him and tell him, "Dear friend, please forgive me. What I said was wrong and hurtful". When you do this, it is called adjusting. Do you have any objection to this approach?"