Adjust Everywhere : The Master Key to be Happy

1. If you do not learn anything else in this worldly life it does not matter, but learning to adjust, is a necessity.
2. You will sail through all difficulties in life if you adjust to anyone who fails to adjust with you. A person who knows how to adjust with others does not suffer. Adjust everywhere.
3. Life is changing constantly. Therefore, one has to adjust to these changes.
4. Adjustment with each and every person is the highest religion.
5. You must make adjustments according to the times you live in.
6. If you have learnt the art of adjustment, you have found the path to eternal bliss.
7. The more your adjust, the more your energies will increase and your weaknesses will diminish.
8. You can only adjust if you correct your mistakes.
9. To live an ideal life is to adjust everywhere.
10. Without understanding the art of worldly interaction, liberation is not possible for anyone. No amount of knowledge of the Soul alone will help because the world has to let you go.

1. Our religion declares that you must see convenience in inconvenience. For example, one night I realized that the bed sheets were dirty. I then made an adjustment in my mind that they were very soft, and as a result, they began to feel very comfortable to me. It is the knowledge that we acquire through the fives senses that makes us perceive inconvenience.
2. "Your energies (to adjust) have to be cultivated especially with those you do not get along with. These energies are already present with people you get along with. Inability to adjust is a weakness. Why is it possible for me to get along with everyone? The more you adjust, the more your energies will increase and your weaknesses will diminish. Right understanding will prevail only when all the wrong understandings are destroyed. Everyone gets along with easy-going and good-natured people, but when you learn to get along with difficult, stubborn, and harsh personalities, you have truly accomplished something.
   No matter how brazen and shameful a person is, if you know how to adjust without losing your mind, it is well worth it. Losing your temper is futile. Nothing in this world will 'fit' you (nothing will adapt to you), but if you 'fit' with every situation or people, then this world will be good. If you attempt to make others 'fit' with you, this world will become awkward. Adjust everywhere. As long as you 'fit' into everything, there will be no problems."
3. Each living being is independent and is looking for happiness. He is not here to give happiness to others. If a person encounters sorrow when he is looking for happiness, he will create enmity; regardless of who gets in his way, be it his wife, his children or his family.

"ADJUSTMENT THROUGH PRAYER"

Questioner : If I do my best to make the other person understand, then is it up to the other person to make the effort to understand?

Dadashri : Your responsibility is to explain things to him. If he still does not understand, there is no solution. Then, all you need to say is : "Dada Bhagwan! (Address the Lord within that person) Give him the light to understand." You have to say at least this much. You cannot leave him in a limbo. This is critical. This is Dada's science of adjustment. It is invaluable. Surely you must be experiencing the results of your inability to adjust? To not adjust is foolishness. Whenever one feels that he cannot relinquish his authority as a husband, he sets himself up for his own downfall. His life will be miserable. Let things run the way they are."

"REMEDY FOR SAYING SOMETHING WRONG"

Adjustment in daily life interactions is Gnan. If your attempt to adjust fails, then try again. For example if you said something hurtful to a friend - really your speech is not under your control, but later on you become aware of your mistake. Now often you fail to go back and set things straight. When you realize your mistake, you should go to him and tell him, "Dear friend, please forgive me. What I said was wrong and hurtful". When you do this, it is called adjusting. Do you have any objection to this approach?"

1. I am often served tea without sugar. I do not say anything. So people say, "If you don't say anything, your wife will become careless in these matters." I tell them to wait and see what happens the next day. The next day she says: "Yesterday, there was no sugar in the tea. Why didn't you say something to me?" I said: "Why do I need to tell you? You will know it when you taste it yourself. If you do not drink tea, then I would tell you. You drink it too, so is there any need for me to tell you?"
2. One day the kadhi (Soup made with chickpea flour, yogurt and spices, common in Gujarat) Hiraba (Dada's wife) made was good, but it was salty. I thought to myself, 'There is definitely too much salt, but I can sip it in small amounts.' As soon as Hiraba went inside, I diluted it with water. She saw me do that and asked why I did that. I told her what difference does it make whether she added water to it on the stove or I added it on the dining table? She told me kadhi should be boiled after water is added to it. I told her it made no difference to me.
3. When I went for a bath one day, I discovered there was no tumbler to pour water with. I adjusted. When I tested the water with my hand, it was scalding hot. And when I turned on the tap for some cold water, I found that the tank was empty. Slowly and carefully, I cupped the water in my hands and cooling it in this way; I managed to take a bath. I could hear the Mahatmas(followers) saying, "Today Dada is taking a long time to bathe." What could I do? I had to wait until the water had cooled down. I never inconvenience anyone. I adjust. To adjust is religion. In this world, we have to make adjustments to balance things out by adding or subtracting. Where there is a minus, I plus it. Where there is a plus, I minus it. If someone were to tell me that my words do not make any sense, I would tell him that he is correct. I would immediately make my adjustments.
4. I adjust with everyone, even a thief or a pickpocket. A thief will sense that I am compassionate in the way I speak to him. I do not tell him that he is wrong. He is simply acting according to his viewpoint. People, in general are likely to hurl abuse at the thief and label him as a worthless being. What about lawyers, are they not liars also? They claim and win even fraudulent cases. Are they not charlatans when they do this? They label the thieves as frauds. The lawyers claim their own fraud to be the truth. How can you trust such people? Despite this, they manage to survive don't they? I never tell anyone that they are wrong. They are correct by their viewpoint. I would explain the facts and inform them about the consequences of their misdeeds.
   No one is bad. These differences of opinion are attributable to egoism.
5. I do not have an ego, therefore I have no conflict with the world. I can see that this is a rose, this is a jasmine, this is a moonflower, and this is the flower of a bitter gourd. I recognize all the personalities. These gardens should be appreciated. What do you think ?
6. This Dada is thrifty, frugal, generous, and completely adjustable at the same time. Generous when it comes to others. Frugal when it comes to himself. Economical when it comes to preaching. People notice that I practice thriftiness also. My economy is adjustable and of the highest kind. I even economize when using water. I am natural and spontaneous.