Questioner: I want to settle everything with equanimity, but how do I go about doing that? Should I accept it in my
mind as a past account?
Dadashri: You cannot settle matters by just doing that alone. Settling with equanimity means you have to make a 'phone call' to the other person's Soul. You must notify her Soul. You must admit and accept your mistakes to that Soul. You have to repent strongly and ask for forgiveness.
Questioner: Do I have to do pratikraman (Dada's prescribed technique of confession, repentance, asking for forgiveness, and vowing never to repeat the mistake) even if someone insults me?
Dadashri: Do pratikraman only when they insult you,not when they praise you. When you do pratikraman, feelings of hatred for that person will not arise at all. On the contrary, you will have a positive effect on him. In the first stage of your pratikraman, you will become aware of the fact that you do not have any abhorrence or negative feelings for him. Later on, the other person will also feel the positive effects of your pratikraman.
Questioner: Does it reach his Soul?
Dadashri: Yes, definitely. His Soul will nudge his pudgal (the physical body; the complex of thoughts, speech, and acts), "There is a phone call for you!" This pratikraman of ours is meant to destroy aggressive thoughts, speech, and acts.
1) If you have difference of opinions, that is your weakness. People are not wrong. No one does anything deliberately. You should ask for forgiveness and accept that you are at fault. We should ask for forgiveness that I am at fault.
2) When one decides that I want to get rid of the mistakes which are in me, he can become the Absolute Supreme Soul (Parmatma).
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Book Name: Harmony in Marriage (Page #48 and Paragraph #4)