Questioner: Dada, when you say we must avoid conflict, does that mean that we have to practice tolerance?
Dadashri: No, to avoid conflict does not mean to tolerate. Your ability to tolerate is limited. How much can you tolerate? To tolerate is the same as compressing a spring. How long can a spring remain compressed? Rather than learn how to tolerate, learn how to reach a solution. Without this knowledge of the laws, one has no choice but to tolerate everything and eventually the compressed spring will recoil, causing a lot of damage. Nevertheless, alas such are the rules of nature. There are no laws in this world dictating that you must endure because of someone else. If you are forced to tolerate the acts of others, realize that it because of your own karmic account. It is because of your past karmas. You do not know where this account came from, so you assume it is something new being directed to you. No one creates new accounts. It is merely the old ones(karmas form your previous life) coming back to you. In our Gnan (Knowledge of Self Realization), we do not have to tolerate anything. We just observe through Gnan, that the other person is a pure Soul and that he is merely instrumental in settling our past account. This awareness solves the puzzle.