Dadashri: When there is frost or an ice storm, it gets so cold that it burns the grass, the trees, and all the crops. Why do you think everything burns when it gets cold?

Questioner: Everything burns because of extreme cold.

Dadashri: Yes so if you live calmly and remain cool, you will become more effective.

Questioner: But Dada, is it not a weakness to be too calm?

Dadashri: One has to remain within limits. That is called normality. "below normal is the fever, above normal is the fever, and ninety-eight is the normal". Therefore only normality is required.

People are more afraid of those who do not get angry as opposed to those who do. Why is it? It is because one develops tremendous inner strength when his anger ceases. This is the law of nature. Otherwise there would be no one to protect such people. People use anger as a form of protection. In ignorance (ignorance of one's real self), one's protection is through anger.

Your Intention (Bhaav) Changes Your Meditation (Dhyaan)

If you become angry with your son, your bhaav (intention) should be, ‘This should not happen.’This means that you have changed negative meditation into positive meditation. Although you were angry, the result turns positive internally because you have changed your true inner intent.

Questioner: Is it b ecause of the bhaav: ‘It should not be this way?’

Dadashri: There is no intent to hurt behind it. It is impossible to have anger without the intent to hurt. Amongst all the different situations where anger occurs, it only binds punya when it is directed towards one's children, one's friends, and one's wife, if the intent to hurt is absent. The reason is clearly visible when one looks at his aim behind his anger.

Even anger has been divided. It is a different anger when you get angry with your son when he is not paying attention to the business. God has said that when a father gets angry with his son for stealing money and other misdeeds, the father will bind punya.