Losing a Loved One: Handling Death Blissfully When Someone Dies!

Losing a loved one due to death seems to be the most painful event. The mere thought of the death of a loved one sends down a shiver of fear. The mind is just not ready to believe that it will have to live life without the loved one. When that moment comes, we are not able to bear the emptiness that gets created in life. Drowned in the memory of the person, we keep crying over and over again and are not able to get over the pain. However, if we get the right understanding of death and the causes of suffering come in our vision, then even during such sad occasions, peace can remain.

What is our true duty when someone dies who is near and dear to us? What should we do after the death of a relative? How to find peace? Do ancestors obstruct us after death? What is the importance of performing Shraadh? If a satisfactory answer to all these questions is found, then one definitely finds solace in times of grief and mourning.

Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan has very closely observed the rituals carried out at the time of the death of a family member and has shed light on the true reasons behind the beliefs and the worldly death rituals. Regarding death, he has revealed to the world a completely different reality as is. This reality inspires us to discard the age-old worldly view and look at the event of losing a loved one due to death in a new light.

Prayer for the Dead

To help someone who has died, pray to their pure Soul using the tool of Pratikraman, or spiritual apology. This releases bondage of attachment or aversion with them.

Spiritual Quotes

In God's vision, no one ever dies. If God were to give you this vision, some day, then no number of deaths would affect you in this world. This is because of this right vision (Gnan).
In reality one does not die nor does one live. This is all just a mistake in one's belief. He believes that he is living, a mortal (jiva), but in reality, he is immortal (Shiva).
The Soul is free from the bondage of birth and death. It is eternal; it has no death.
This phenomenon of taking birth and dying is of the ego. It is the ego that is born and it is the ego that dies.In reality the Soul does not die at all.
There is birth after death and death after birth. Why does this cycle continue relentlessly? It is because of 'causes and effects, and effects and causes' that the cycle perpetuates. If causes were destroyed, effect too would come to an end and another birth would cease to occur.
Causes of new karma can only be stopped in the human life. There is only effect in all other life forms. In human beings there is both causes and effects.
Everything in the world is mandatory indeed. Even dying is mandatory, and so is being born. Therefore, why don't you go ahead and discover 'what you can do of your own free will'?
The one who feels joyful, will definitely come across an instance where he has to experience sorrow.
Why worry about that for which there is no solution? There is no solution for death, so does anyone worry about that?
Birth and death are not of the Soul (Atma). The Soul is a permanent element. This birth and death are of the egoism.
Samadhi-maran (blissful death; awareness as 'I am Soul' during death) means there is no memory of anything other than the Self. There is no presence of the mind, the intellect, the chit or egoism at that time. One is only in the Self (the soul).
One cannot change his current life span but one can change his next life form. The ticket can be changed but death cannot be changed. At the time of death, whatever one is latched on to, that will be his condition in the next life – ya mati, sa gati (His next life will be decided by his state of opinion and intellect at the time of his death).
Maya (ignorance of One's Real form as the Self) is the one that makes you take birth, maya is the one who makes you get married, and maya is also the one who makes you die. However, the only condition here is that the 'reign' is not of maya. The 'reign' is yours. It cannot happen without you desiring it. Whatever you signed off on in the past life, is what maya is giving as an effect in this life.
The moment one is born, the ‘saw starts cutting’. People consider it as death only when the wood breaks in two pieces [during funeral]. But it was being cut from the very beginning.
All who die, are all worldly beings (sansari – believing the worldly life to be real).
Because of anger-pride-deceit-greed, selfishness [self-interest] remains and consequently one has no awareness of who dies or who takes birth. It is simply a wrong belief that has arisen. But after a long time, as one progresses, if he meets a Gnani Purush [the enlightened one], he will acquire the awareness that birth and death is simply a phase.
Nothing can be gained by stating, “The Self is immortal (amar).” That can actually be said only when the Self comes into Its inherent nature (Swabhaav). When the fear of death is averted, then this can be stated.
Death means nature’s take over. One has to leave behind all his earnings (wealth) and take with him all the problems (he has created with others).
At the time of death, one says, ‘Dear Lord, extend my life for two more hours, so that a Gnani Purush [the enlightened one] comes and I can do his darshan.’ He complains in this way. Do not complain now. Why are you pleading now? When you had the control, you didn’t do anything and now that you no longer have the control, you are making demands?

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