True Love In Relationship

1. With love one would never see the fault of the wife or the children throughout his life. In love, one never sees any faults at all.
2. Infatuation and attraction can either be above normal or below normal. Love is within normality; it remains constant without changing.
3. Real love is that which remains the same whether one receives flowers or thorns of insults.
4. Real love is unadulterated and pure. Real love does not have motives of sex, greed or pride.
5. It is an illusion if people appear good and it is also an illusion if they appear to have faults. The former is because of attachment and the latter because of detachment. In reality everyone is faultless.
6. People want unconditional love, love devoid of selfishness.
7. Pure love, real love exists where there is no selfishness; where there are no feelings of 'yours-mine'. Wherever there is a feeling of' 'yours-mine', there is definitely selfishness as well as ignorance of the Self.
8. That which increases one moment and decreases the next, is not love: That which resides in the heart and remains the same, is real love.
9. The love between a real guru and the disciple is such that the disciple absorbs everything the guru says.
10. God exists where there is honesty in relative interactions and where there is pure love, which does not increase, or decrease. These are the two places where God resides. Where there is love, faith and purity, that is where God is.

1. That which increases one moment and decreases the next, is not love: That which resides in the heart and remains the same, is real love.
2. In worldly interactions, only love can win over children, workers and everyone else. Any other means will ultimately prove to be futile.
3. In love there should be no sulking or moodiness. That is the kind of love you will find from me. One's love should never fluctuate. If your husband is upset with you, your love for him should not change. If a woman is given diamonds, her love increases. All this is infatuation and attraction. The world is run by infatuation and attraction. The only ones who have the license to love are the Gnanis and the fully enlightened Lords. Their love makes people blissful. This love creates a permanent bond between them. Their love is beyond this world. There is no hint of worldly love in it.
4. People sever their friendships over external problems. When the friendship begins, they display love externally and also feel the same love internally. But when problems arise, their conflicts too will be external and internal. There should be no conflict internally. Although the other person will not be aware of it, one should still have love for him internally. As long as there is internal harmony, one's humanity will not be lost. One loses humanity when one loses internal harmony.

1 - (a) Question: What should I do to be free from the infatuation and attraction for my dead wife/husband/relative?

(b) Answer: The problem was created with him believing, 'She is mine, she is mine.' Now by reciting, 'She is not mine, she is not mine,' the attachment will dissolve. The threads that were wound have to be unwound.

(c) You will see your attachment towards anyone dead will reduce and you will feel lighter within.Do you want to be free from your attachments and infatuation , completely then come experience  Dada's Gnan Vidhi.

2 - (a) Question: How to improve children?

(b) Answer: At home you should create such an atmosphere of love that your children would hate to leave. When all they see is your love, and nothing but love, you will make an impression on them and they will listen to you. Then they will accept your values.

Why does a child start to cry when you hit him gently? He cries because he feels the pain from the insult and not the physical pain.

The only way to improve this world is through love.

The world improves through love. Improvements can be achieved through love. I improve everyone through love. I talk to them with love, so things do not get ruined; but if there were even the slightest amount of dislike, it would spoil things. Milk can turn sour with the slightest exposure to bad air, even if no yogurt culture is added to it. With love, one can say anything. What I am telling you is that the whole world is yours if you become the embodiment of love. Wherever there is animosity, slowly change it to love. It is because of animosity that this world appears callous. Here in my presence, love incarnate, everyone is content and in bliss.