Questioner : I have made my best effort to make the other person understand. After this, is it not all up to him?

Dadashri : Your responsibility is to explain the matter to him. If he still does not understand, there is no solution. Then, all you need to say is: “Dada Bhagwan! (Address the Lord within that person) Give him the light to understand.” You have to say at least this much.  You cannot leave him in a limbo.  This is critical. This is Dada’s science of adjustment. It is invaluable. Surely, you must be experiencing the results of your inability to adjust. ‘Disadjustment’ is foolishness. Whenever one feels that he cannot relinquish his authority as a husband, he sets himself up for his own downfall. His life will be miserable. Let things run the way they are. When the wife says, “You are stupid”, you should reply, “You are right.” 

Adjustment in daily life interactions is gyan. Adjust. Let us say you attempt to adjust and fail. Adjust again. For example, you have said something hurtful. This act of yours was not under your control. Later you become aware of your mistake. Generally, you do not adjust in this situation. From now on, make sure that you adjust by saying, “Dear friend, forgive me for my mistake. I hurt you with my words at that time.” This is adjustment. Do you have any objection to this approach?

Questioner: No, none whatsoever.