One night the wife pleads with her husband to buy her a saree.  He asks her how much it is and she tells him that it costs only 2200 rupees. Her husband tells her that if it cost 200 or 300 rupees, he would gladly buy it for her, but how could they afford such an expensive saree?  The wife gets upset and begins to sulk.  What kind of a problem has been created?  He even begins to regret getting married.  What use is regret after the fact?  This is suffering.  

Questioner : Are you saying that the husband should buy her the 2200-rupee saree?

Dadashri : It all depends upon him whether to buy it or not. Her disgruntled attitude will continue and every night she will threaten not to cook. From where will he get another cook?  He will have to buy it even if he has to borrow the money.

He should make the situation such that she herself would not want to buy the saree.  If his was earning 800 rupees a month, he should keep 100 rupees for himself and give her the rest.  Would she be likely to buy herself a saree then? He could then even afford to tease her about buying a saree. Then the decision to buy the saree would be hers.  If the decision rested on him, she would continue to pressure him. I learnt this art before I attained Gyan.  It was much later that I became a Gnani(Self Enlignten Being). I acquired Gyan after I discovered ways of dealing with difficult situations. You have problems because you do not have this approach.   

Questioner : Yes, it is correct.