You should not express your opinion first. Ask the other person what he thinks about the matter at hand. If the other person adheres to his viewpoint, then you should let go of your opinion. All you need to make sure of is that the other person does not get hurt in any way. Do not attempt to pushyour opinion upon others. Accept the other person’s viewpoint.  I have accepted everyone’s opinion and have become a Gnani(self enlightened Being) . I never push my opinion on others. No one should be hurt by your opinion.

If your mental revolutions are at a speed of 1800 rpm and the other person’s revolutions are at 600 and you try to force your opinion on that person, his engine will break down and all the gears will have to be replaced.

Questioner: What do you mean by revolutions?

Dadashri: Revolution refers to the speed of thinking of a person. It varies from person to person. An event will show you so many things within a minute.  It shows you all its phases at a time.  The president’s revolutions per minute are 1200, mine are at 5000, and God Mahavir’s were 100,000.

What is the cause behind these clashes? Your wife has 100 revolutions, and you have 500. You do not know how to employ a ‘counter-pulley’, to slow down your revolutions. This results in arguments, clashes, fights and sometimes the whole engine may break.

Do you understand what I mean by ‘revolutions’?  If you talk to a laborer, he will not understand what you are trying to say, because his revolutions are 50, and yours are 500.  People’s revolutions are according to their level of development. He will understand what you are trying to say only after you insert a counter-pulley and slow down your revolutions.  I use a counter-pulley with everyone therefore I do not have conflicts with anyone. Therefore everyone experiences peace in my presence. I know that this person has only so many revolutions and therefore, I adjust the counter-pulley accordingly. Removal of ego alone is not enough to make the other person understand you. A counter-pulley must also be used. I get along with small children, because I use a counter-pulley with them too. If I did not, then their engine would break.

Questioner: Does this mean that a meaningful conversation can only occur when we come down to the level of the other person?

Dadashri: Yes. You will be able to communicate with them, only when you come to their level of revolutions.  If you do not know how to apply a counter-pulley, what fault is it of the engine with lesser revolutions?