Questioner :  Many times, we have to adjust with two people at the same time and concerning the same matter. How can we deal with that all at once?

Dadashri : You can deal with both. Even if you had to adjust to seven people, you could still do it.  If one asks, “What have you done for me?”  Your reply should be, “Yes, I will do what you want me to.” To another person you simply repeat the same thing. Nothing will happen outside vyavasthit (scientific circumstancial evedence). Do not create conflict. Adjustment is the key. With ‘yes’ there is liberation. Is anything going to happen outside vyavasthit (scientific circumstancial evedence) if you say, “Yes” to seven such people?  If you say, “No” to anyone, there will be problems.

If the husband and wife both make a firm commitment to adjust, they will find a solution. If one is insistent, the other has to adjust by giving in which will lead to family happiness.

If you do not adjust you can become insane. Repeated harassment of others is the reason for this insanity. If you provoke a dog once, twice or even thrice, he will still heed you, but if you keep annoying him, he will bite you.  Even the dog starts to think of you as a bad person.  This is worth understanding. Do not provoke anyone. Adjust everywhere.

The one, who has learnt the art of adjustment, has found the path of eternal bliss.  Adjustment made is Gnan. This will be one’s triumph.  You will have to suffer whatever suffering comes your way, but the person who has learnt to adjust will not have any problems. He will settle his previous accounts. If you encounter a robber and you “disadjust”, he will beat you up.  Instead you should simply adjust and get your work done by saying, “Friend what do you want?  I am on a pilgrimage and do not have a lot of money.”   In so doing, you have adjusted to him.

You commit a blunder if you criticize your wife’s cooking. You must not do that.  You are talking as if you never make any mistakes. You must adjust with the person with whom you have made a commitment to spend your life.  If you hurt anyone, how can you call yourself follower of the religion of Lord Mahavir? No one in the home should be hurt. This is very important.